People give no-constructive-energy toward repairing our damaged society. They must believe either that it has no value, or that it is so tough it will never be destroyed. Do you really believe that?
With this many partners, we all have burning ideas that we would like to get out there. We have many-many posts "in the hopper" ready to publish.
I don't believe growing this site is dependent on how many posts we publish. Just the contrary, really there are already too many posts. What we need are people committed to break the Culture of Silence. They won't come by the "numbers". Just cruise some sites with lots of subscribers. The comments are sparse, not deeply thought out, or non-existent. People don't engage together to dig deeply into each other's ideas.
I don't pit it as a problem. It is the nature of western society and the nature of Substack. What I am saying might be provocative to a reader, but it is all above, in this post. The giant momentum of many millions of people can't "just" be reversed. Maybe never.
But I will continue to engage, where it seems to bear fruit.
We used to have the SILENT MAJORITY. True, the majority didn't say a thing. That didn't mean they were quite because the all agreed with what the political bosses were claiming and doing.
They likely didn't even read about it. On TV it was just said, "swallow this". ("In how many gulps" was the reply.) Just don't change my job and don't raise my taxes. FINISH! (Screw the rest of the world.)
I think that you could make the case that Americans are a Philistine people. Even the "good Christians" or those trying to live an honest life. About 3 - 4 years ago I was writing on another platform, and I even titled one blog "Is there a Peace Movement?" I made about 15 or 20 posts, but with very little reaction. Certainly no one suggested a movement nor said they were active in any. I found a couple small movements and posted, but again no reaction. BRAIN-DEAD.
We'll see who objects here. But this is the post "Culture of Silence", so?
Instead of declining an offer, explaining one's situation or offering the respect of making some sort of conclusion to an offer you made to say "no," people now merely completely ignore you. No Comment means "no.' Or perhaps "No Comment" means, "Fuck off and go away." I'm not sure.
Yet, if I do restore contact, people act as if what they did by ignoring my proposition wasn't insulting or rude in any way to me. They seem to want to continue our relationship.
I wonder if that can be a "style of communication" (from our latest Tannen posts). The "blank stare". But she didn't include it in the 9 to 5 book.
Are people afraid of closure? You might say something like: "In case you have dozed off, I was wondering if you would say yes or no to my last proposal?"
In general, I just figure if they need me, they will reestablish contact. Otherwise good bye.
Many women don't like to debate. They have a decidedly non-competitive attitude about controversial subjects. So they say nothing & there is no fighting.
I prefer to ask the "why discuss this" foundation questions. This helps people to stop outlining why there's a problem & the need to address it. Instead I prefer to have them go onto their proposed "solutions."
Dialogue skills or World Cafe events seem constructive to me. Barnstorming group-endorsed solutions are awesome!
I would like to write something that was more attuned to the female approach. (Even if there really is no such thing as a female / male division), there are some tendencies.
Maybe it would be nice if we all had the right to our own opinions. What does that mean, that no consensus will ever be possible, and of course there will be no fighting (over speech)? There will be plenty of fighting over a broken society. My experience is if you don't debate, at least internally, your ideas don't develop. For decades I was disinterested in the comings and goings of society, and I couldn't articulate anything about it either. You become a bystander, just in for the wild ride. Let "hubbie" handle these details.
Debate is not a competition. Debate is discovery and growth. I am sure there are many issues begging for investigation. To say that there is really no problem meriting discussion is kind of like shielding your privileged lifestyle, (it is privileged to some people.) And I don't believe we have any proposed solutions. It is not that easy.
I don't know the World Café Events nor about Barnstorming. What have they come up with that seems feasible?
With this many partners, we all have burning ideas that we would like to get out there. We have many-many posts "in the hopper" ready to publish.
I don't believe growing this site is dependent on how many posts we publish. Just the contrary, really there are already too many posts. What we need are people committed to break the Culture of Silence. They won't come by the "numbers". Just cruise some sites with lots of subscribers. The comments are sparse, not deeply thought out, or non-existent. People don't engage together to dig deeply into each other's ideas.
I don't pit it as a problem. It is the nature of western society and the nature of Substack. What I am saying might be provocative to a reader, but it is all above, in this post. The giant momentum of many millions of people can't "just" be reversed. Maybe never.
But I will continue to engage, where it seems to bear fruit.
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We used to have the SILENT MAJORITY. True, the majority didn't say a thing. That didn't mean they were quite because the all agreed with what the political bosses were claiming and doing.
They likely didn't even read about it. On TV it was just said, "swallow this". ("In how many gulps" was the reply.) Just don't change my job and don't raise my taxes. FINISH! (Screw the rest of the world.)
I think that you could make the case that Americans are a Philistine people. Even the "good Christians" or those trying to live an honest life. About 3 - 4 years ago I was writing on another platform, and I even titled one blog "Is there a Peace Movement?" I made about 15 or 20 posts, but with very little reaction. Certainly no one suggested a movement nor said they were active in any. I found a couple small movements and posted, but again no reaction. BRAIN-DEAD.
We'll see who objects here. But this is the post "Culture of Silence", so?
Maybe someone will agree?
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I'd also like to add another observation to this.
Instead of declining an offer, explaining one's situation or offering the respect of making some sort of conclusion to an offer you made to say "no," people now merely completely ignore you. No Comment means "no.' Or perhaps "No Comment" means, "Fuck off and go away." I'm not sure.
Yet, if I do restore contact, people act as if what they did by ignoring my proposition wasn't insulting or rude in any way to me. They seem to want to continue our relationship.
I wonder if that can be a "style of communication" (from our latest Tannen posts). The "blank stare". But she didn't include it in the 9 to 5 book.
Are people afraid of closure? You might say something like: "In case you have dozed off, I was wondering if you would say yes or no to my last proposal?"
In general, I just figure if they need me, they will reestablish contact. Otherwise good bye.
.
Many women don't like to debate. They have a decidedly non-competitive attitude about controversial subjects. So they say nothing & there is no fighting.
I prefer to ask the "why discuss this" foundation questions. This helps people to stop outlining why there's a problem & the need to address it. Instead I prefer to have them go onto their proposed "solutions."
Dialogue skills or World Cafe events seem constructive to me. Barnstorming group-endorsed solutions are awesome!
I would like to write something that was more attuned to the female approach. (Even if there really is no such thing as a female / male division), there are some tendencies.
Maybe it would be nice if we all had the right to our own opinions. What does that mean, that no consensus will ever be possible, and of course there will be no fighting (over speech)? There will be plenty of fighting over a broken society. My experience is if you don't debate, at least internally, your ideas don't develop. For decades I was disinterested in the comings and goings of society, and I couldn't articulate anything about it either. You become a bystander, just in for the wild ride. Let "hubbie" handle these details.
Debate is not a competition. Debate is discovery and growth. I am sure there are many issues begging for investigation. To say that there is really no problem meriting discussion is kind of like shielding your privileged lifestyle, (it is privileged to some people.) And I don't believe we have any proposed solutions. It is not that easy.
I don't know the World Café Events nor about Barnstorming. What have they come up with that seems feasible?
Thanks
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There are many live streaming World Cafe events online. Just search for them and signup
Railroady Fungeon Masters get me seething too.
You can cross post this piece?